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The Dude’s Guide to Marriage provides for us a beautiful real-life picture of what a marriage centered on the gospel looks like amidst the daily grind of life.
— Matt Chandler, Author of The Mingling of Souls

What does your wife want?


This question has stumped the greatest male minds for centuries. 

As Darrin and Amie Patrick reveal in this profoundly practical and transformational book, God designed your wife to want to need to be loved. And that design is an invitation for you to love her deeply, intentionally and passionately.

Practicing ten powerful actions including listening, pursuing, and serving will transform you into your wife's lifelong champion.

The Dude's Guide to Marriage is for guys who want to grow, who want clear steps to improving their marriage. It's for men who want a marriage that thrives rather than just survives. 

Grab this guide, and get ready to be a better husband by becoming a better man.


Darrin Patrick has an amazing ability to equip and motivate men to everything God created them to be. The Dude’s Guide to Marriage is practical, biblical, motivational and perhaps most important — doable for any man who wants to love his wife well.
— Craig Groeschel, Senior Pastor of LifeChurch.tv, Author of From This Day Forward: Five Commitments to Fail-Proof Your Marriage
Darrin and Amie’s transparency is refreshing and their good-humored, blunt counsel is gold. Dude, if you’re going to read one book on marriage, read this one.
— Jon Bloom, Co-founder & Chair, Desiring God
With refreshing candor and real-world wisdom, Darrin & Amie Patrick reveal the attitudes and skills that will make any husband, a better husband – and any marriage, a better marriage. I encourage you to read it. Carefully. You’ll be glad you did. So will your wife.
— Larry Osborne, Author and Pastor, North Coast Church

Darrin & Amie

Darrin Patrick

What's the best marriage advice that you've ever received?

Your wife is a mystery to be explored, not a problem to be solved.

What’s the best date you and Amie have been on?

Going to dinner and seeing Jim Gaffigan, which happens almost every year.

Favorite Movie?

Fight Club.

Favorite Holiday?

Deer Season.

Favorite Food?

My wife’s spaghetti.

What is Amie’s most annoying habit?

Reticence to talking on the phone.

Follow Darrin on Twitter - @DarrinPatrick

Amie Patrick

What's the best marriage advice that you've ever received?

'Being in love' first moved them to promise fidelity: this quieter love enables them to keep the promise. It is on this love that the engine of marriage is run: being in love was the explosion that started it.

C.S. Lewis, Mere Christianity

What’s the best date you and Darrin have been on?

Seeing the Rockefeller Center Christmas tree on a snowy night several years ago.

Favorite Movie?

Forrest Gump.

Favorite Holiday?

Thanksgiving....I hate how it gets skipped over in the rush to Christmas.

Favorite Food?


What is Darrin's most annoying habit?

His propensity to be easily distracted.

Follow Amie on Twitter - @AmiePatrick



Darrin & Amie Patrick discuss all things marriage — from roles to pitfalls to disappointments and more — corresponding with their book, The Dude’s Guide to Marriage.

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Schedule: DATES TBD

Day 1
Session 1: Knowing Your Roles in Marriage
Session 2: Avoiding Pitfalls in Marriage

Day 2
Session 3: Overcoming Disappointment in Marriage
Session 4: Q&A w/Darrin & Amie